I don’t know why I feel I need to do this, but I feel like I need to get this out or I am going to explode. I think I will feel better to just get this out. Plus, everyone I know has been telling me I aught to “write that shit down” so I am.

If you are my friend, family, or even someone who lived near Amy and I over the last two years, you probably already know this story, if you are not my friend; please take the time to read it. (I promise it will be an interesting and educational read)

 If you have any questions this (probably far to long) tale fails to answer, I will be happy to answer them.  If you have been told something contradictory to what you read in the following pages, I can get you in contact with many others who will corroborate what is written here.

Where to start?.... I guess the most important thing is just to tell the truth. So here it is. The truth.

Just over two years ago (Dec. 26, 2005 to be exact) I met a girl.  We met online first on a website for scenester kids and rockabilly types called greaserlove.com (it’s no longer in existence) I wrote her an e-mail because she lived in Erie Pa, and I had lived not far from there in Edinboro pa when I was in college. She wrote back and told me that she too was enrolled at Edinboro but was going to their branch campus in Erie.  She told me she was an R.N. at an Erie hospital and that she was working on her BSN degree. We spoke on the phone a few times and chatted on line, when I went home to visit my family in Pittsburgh that Christmas, we agreed to meet up for lunch.

 It was the best date of my life. We had lunch and then hit the town together, we ended up spending the whole day together walking and talking and taking in all the sites and sounds of Pittsburgh.  She didn’t leave to go back to Erie till almost 9 o’clock that night. I was in heaven.  I met my little sisters out for a drink that very night and told them…”I found her! Someday, I am going to marry that woman”. I knew right away. No one had ever made me feel so alive. Just a few days later I drove up to Erie to spend time with Amy there, we again had a blast and what really impressed me was what a woman of true character she was. When I was there, I asked her if I could spend the night at her house. Please understand I was up front with her, I told her I would be happy to sleep on the couch, I was not trying to get into her bed, I just needed a place to stay.  She said, she had not even dated anyone since her divorce from madellyn’s father and she didn’t want her daughter to see mommy bringing home a man, or have maddy wake up to a stranger in the house. She offered to get me a hotel room. I was floored! What a good mom, how thoughtful, what an incredible woman. (if only I had known the truth then, but we will get to that later) Over the next few months we dated long distance, and everyday I fell for her harder and harder. 

 One of the best parts of her was her little girl. Please understand, I have no children of my own, I have never really wanted children of my own, but the moment I laid eyes on lil madellyn baker I was hers forever.  (as you read the rest of this, it is important to note that I am still in love with that little girl, and even got to visit her recently… but I am giving away to much)

 So this was it….. I had the woman of my dreams, and a perfect little girl to boot. They were all mine, the perfect family, my perfect future.  I asked Amy to be my wife less than two months from the day we met. It was on stage at a noFX concert in Norfolk VA. She said yes and I couldn’t have been happier.  We were married on April 1^st 2006 in a small ceremony at a friend’s house. (April fools day couldn’t have been a more apropos date)

 At this point I feel I should perhaps tell you a little bit about the woman I fell in love with. Please understand I had no reason not to believe everything she told me, and in many cases no way to check her story out even if I didn’t believe her. Besides, I was in love; you couldn’t have convinced me she was lying even if you had shown proof. Looking back now, it doesn’t seem possible to believe all that she said, but as I said… . I was in love, and she is very, very convincing.  

   As I said before when I met Amy she told me she was an RN at a hospital in Erie pa, but let’s go back a bit. She told me she was born in England on a naval base when her father was stationed there.  Her father had been born on an Indian reservation in Canada, the youngest of 17 children.  His Indian given name was something akin to “lead pipe”, or “rusty hatchet” or something of that nature.  When he came to America he chose the name Gary Miller because Gary Cooper was his favorite actor, and miller was his favorite beer.  He joined the navy and was a translator during the Cubin missile crisis before being stationed over seas.  This is where he met Amy’s mother Phyllis Ball.  Phyllis was and Austrian born woman who as a child had survived the Nazi’s during WWII. (she explained to me that her parents were very old) her mother was raised speaking only German and to this day has a very thick accent. In fact, her grandmother still spoke almost no English at all.  Amy had two older sisters who were apparently very much like Cinderella’s step sisters. They were always mean to Amy and she never had much interaction with them, especially since they were so much older than she. Her oldest sister (Christy) was 22 years older than Amy, and the next one (Sandy) was 11 years older.  When Amy was a teenager she was ranked 6^th in the nation for figure skating. She went to catholic school and graduated in 1996 at the age of 15; she skipped two grades in the years she was home schooled. She lived in Italy for a semester her senior year of high school. Two days after graduation, she called her parents from Aruba, and told them she was not coming home. She lived there for two years working on Vespas for the tourists.  After she returned to the states she went to college for nursing at George Mason in DC, This is where she got her RN in nursing.  After school she joined the army for four years and worked in military intelligence; an eye injury just weeks before she would have gotten out kept her from completing her full four years. She then moved to NYC and married madellyn’s father Jim. The two of them opened a bar in Brooklyn called (I can’t remember what it was called).  Shortly after the bar opened they had madellyn. There are many specifics surrounding their relationship that I will forgo, suffice to say, shortly after maddy was born, she found another woman’s underwear in their bed and left him. (she told me he was sleeping with a stripper)  He then proceeded to blow all the business’s money and lost the bar because he could not do it with out Amy.  She told me they got a divorce and he told her she could have maddy he really didn’t want anything to do with her.  I was told from the time I met Amy/maddy that the only reason maddy even went to New York was to visit her Grammy Pam, the only one who cared about maddy. (even if she did do a terrible job taking care of her)

Well, I think it’s time to clear some of that mess up! Don’t you?

Let’s go back again and start from the beginning.

First: her father was born in Erie PA (not on a reservation) and while he does have some Native American in him, he is a few generations removed from “full blooded”.  His birth name is and always has been Gary Miller. Her mother Phyllis was also born and raised in Erie, not Austria  Amy learned the small amount of German she can speak in school, I still have the notes she left from her class.  Her father was in the navy, but was not stationed in England, and Amy was not born there, and never lived there.  Amy does have two older sisters, but they are nowhere near as old or as mean as she claimed. I have spoken with them both at length many times, and found them to be remarkably nice ladies.  From what I have been told, Amy did do some competitive roller skating as a kid, but was never a figure skater. (ice skates) she graduated high school in 1998 (not 96) she never lived in Aruba, never spent a semester in Italy. She spent about a week in both places, Italy on a school field trip, and Aruba on a vacation after high school graduation with a boyfriend. There’s a whole different crazy story surrounding her Aruba trip that I will save for another time. Amy did go to George Mason in DC, but according to her mother never went beyond the first year, and didn’t get a degree. (at some point later she did get a lab tech license, which is what she did at the hospital, but she is not and has never been a nurse)  There are conflicting stories regarding Amy’s involvement with the military. Whether or not Amy joined the army or just had to get army training for a job she was doing is not certain. She has a military ID, so I assume she joined up in some capacity, but she never even made it out of boot camp and certainly did not do four years. (she even told one of her more recent boyfriends she was in airborne….um no) and so was her mother before her, neither of them speaks German.

Now, on to jimmy…

 How they met and got together is their personal business, so I shall leave that alone. What I will say is this.  They never owned a bar in Brooklyn NY; they had a bar in Middle Town NY, almost an hour and a half outside of the city.  Regardless of what she claims, Amy has never lived in NYC. She even claims to have contracted asthma and breathing problems from the dust of 911,  the problem with that story is that she was living in Otisville NY at the time of 911, nowhere near the city.  Jimmy never cheated on Amy, in fact, she cheated on him. I have seen her separation papers (that she signed) which state the marital infidelity was hers and hers alone. Amy and jimmy were never divorced because Jimmy could not afford the lawyers fees. (I can relate) Amy and Jimmy are as of this date still technically married. Like any person going through a divorce, Amy of course knew they were not divorced. (you get a divorce decree when your divorce is finalized, no decree, no divorce)   Aside from cheating on him, Amy financially crippled Jim by not paying bills or taxes on the bar in the months before she left. This was the cause for Jim having to sell his bar and his belongings to avoid bankruptcy.  It has taken him the subsequent 4 years to get back on his feet, but these days he is doing fine, and I wish him the very best. Thank God he has Madellyn back and is doing a wonderful job raising her. I feel it is important to note that Jim Baker is one of the nicest guys I have ever met. When I visited in Dec (to see maddy) he and his family welcomed me with open arms and made me feel like family myself.  Thank you Jimmy, Pam, and James Sr.!

After Jim kicked her out, (for cheating on him) she apparently spent a short time in Ohio with her friend Leila. (I don’t know if this is true, it’s just what she told me)  She then settled back in Erie Pennsylvania. She quickly married Thomas “TJ” Sandel.  I do not know the details of their marriage, in fact until very recently I did not know he even existed, but that will be addressed shortly. Suffice to say, Amy married TJ, (in 2004) and moved into a house with him across the street from the house she grew up in.  I do know that she was brought up on charges for writing a bad check to Wal-Mart (she wrote it from a closed account) I know TJ had to pay a $500.00 fine for her.

Now we have come to my part in this little tale… I find this to be the hardest part to write about. It’s easy to write about other peoples experiences. At least in this case, it has been little more than assembling the facts into a somewhat comprehendible and chronological order.  Writing about my own personal life I have found to be much more difficult. I find I tend to ramble a bit more and get lost in unimportant details. As I write, I recall more and more. I wish I had the space, time, and patience to write down everything that happened, luckily for you, I don’t. Understand, this is a condensed version of all that has happened. Were I to write all that has transpired, these few pages would quickly become a few hundred.   I will try to be specific and make as much sense as I can. Please remember I am not a “writer” but rather a rememberer who is simply trying to preserve the truth and write the facts as they happened.

 I mentioned earlier that I met Amy on a website known as greaser love.   We started chatting and sending e-mails back and forth to each other in October of 2005 and by November we were talking regularly on the phone. She never mentioned that she was married; in fact she told me repeatedly that she hadn’t even dated anyone in a serious capacity since her divorce from Jim. She spoke at length about how Jim had ruined her life and how he had cheated on her.  I was recently divorced as well and could relate to the pain and frustration of going through that kind of thing. She told that he had recently been making efforts to get back together with her, and had gone so far as to send her flowers. At one point she called me very upset telling me that he had tried to break into her house, and that she had called the cops on him and had him arrested.  The truth of the matter is that Jim hasn’t been in Erie, since before they split, and everything she said was, of course, a lie.  Speaking of her house, let’s discuss her living arrangements at the time we met. I know if I was you I would be saying to myself…..”How in the world does someone not know the person they are dating and about to marry is married already and living with her husband?”

  Let’s clear that all up.

As I stated before, I was living in VA at the time and she was in Erie PA. (that is almost a 10 hour drive) She told me that her and a girlfriend of hers had purchased a house together, (‘cause they got a really good deal on it) and she was renting out the upstairs to a couple she was friends with.  She and maddy were living downstairs. The truth of the matter was it was TJ’s house! This explains why she always insisted that I stay in a hotel when I came to visit. It had nothing to do with her not wanting maddy to see her bringing home a man like she said; it was because she had a husband!  

  She moved out of her house around the time we got married, and (according to her) moved in with her friend Tina. She told me the reason she was moving was because she could not afford to live in her house anymore, the real reason she moved out was because she was leaving her husband.  It’s important to note that I was not the only man she was cheating on TJ with. She was also seeing some guy named Pat.  She told me that Pat was a friend of hers from Erie. She said he had a crush on her and she often referred to him as “creepy Pat” because he often hit on her.  She was in fact sleeping with Pat. (he admitted to it when confronted by TJ in the summer of 06)

 I must say I was blissfully unaware of all of this at the time. I was just so happy to be with the woman of my dreams. After our marriage in April, the plan was for Amy to stay in Erie till she finished school in December, then her and Madellyn would be moving down with me.

 Shortly after we were married Amy moved in with Tina, and according to her, Tina had quite the drug problem. I didn’t like the idea of her living there, but she insisted that she could no longer afford her house. According to Amy she had signed a letter of non responsibility, and signed over the house to her friend.  Tina had a small apt. in Erie, and Amy was sleeping in her bed and had Madellyn sleeping on the floor.  I was not comfortable with this situation.  I asked Amy to send Madellyn down to live with me so I could take care of her. She jumped at the idea. My mother and father were coming to visit me in VA, so they made the trip up to Erie  before they came and brought Maddy down to live with me in the beginning of June 2006. I set up a bed for Maddy in my room and got to work being a father. I found a baby sitter for Maddy during the day and even took her to work with me a few times. It was hard work, and unfamiliar territory for me, but I did the best I could and tried to be a good daddy.

  Amy insisted we buy a house so we had somewhere “secure and safe” for Maddy to grow up. I found and purchased a house in Alberta VA. About 15 min. away from where I worked. It was a little more than I felt I could afford, but Amy liked it and assured me that she would be making close to 60 K per year as a RN.  With her salary we could make it. Plus once she finished school in December she would have her BSN degree and make even more. It seemed we would be quite financially secure and happy.  The truth, as I have stated before, was that Amy was not an RN, (registered nurse) she was not even an LPN (Licensed Practical Nurse) and she was not in school to get her BSN (bachelor of science degree in nursing) she was in fact in school to get her LPN, but that was not to be.   So again, everything she had told me was a lie.

  In late June, Amy called me hysterical (she seems to get that way often) she claimed that Tina’s boyfriend had climbed into bed with her in the middle of the night and tried to force himself on her. She was very upset, so was I, and I told her to just quit school move here and she could finish her degree once she was down here.  She was all too happy to leave Erie, and I was happy to have my wife with me. She moved to Virginia permanently at the end of June 06, just days before her 26^th birthday.

 Although Amy assured me she would have no problem finding a job here, she didn’t even start applying for jobs for almost a month after she moved here. Even after she started applying, the offers just didn’t seem to be rolling in. we lived about halfway between South Hill and Emporia VA and both had hospitals, and both were advertising positions for RN’s. Amy claimed that for some reason her RN licensure would not transfer from Pennsylvania to Virginia. I have since found this not to be true, if she had truly had an RN license like she claimed, she would have had no problem getting a job. As it was she did not find employment until the end of October 2006. In the meantime we were bouncing checks and really strapped for cash. I had to sell my Sportster (I have heard she is now claiming it was her bike, but I had it years before I ever met her) just to pay the bills.

She finally got a job in South Hill at Community Memorial Hospital. She told me she was working as a surgical nurse, but I have since learned that she was just doing lab work. (surprise, another lie)  We made ends meet for a while and even spent $600.00 as a down payment on a 56 Cadillac she wanted to buy from her friend Liela. (of course, I never saw the caddy or the money ever again) however, we started little by little to pull ourselves up. I really felt like we were going to make it and we were destined for a happy and long life together.  (boy was I wrong)

Let’s go back to the summer of 2006.

 As I have said already, even though Amy and I were married in April, she continued to live in Erie PA till the beginning of July.  She moved down to Alberta VA with Maddy and I right around her 26^th birthday.  As I explained before Amy had dropped out of school and decided to move to VA rather suddenly.  She told me that she had to go back to Erie a few times to finish out her two weeks of work at the doctors office where she had been employed. Whether that is true or not I don’t know, I do know now that one of the main reasons she had to return to Erie was to sign her divorce papers from TJ. At the time I trusted her completely and when she said she was going back to work out her two weeks, I believed her. (I was such a fool)  That August the two of us took a trip to Erie to pick up some of her stuff from her friend Tina’s house. While we were there we went to get some tattoos from Amy’s good friend Eerie Eric @ Ink Assassins Tattoo shop.  He was a really nice guy and Amy had been going to him for a while. In fact, she had gone to him to get some work done during one of her recent solo excursions up north, so I was surprised when I met him and he had no idea who I was, and in fact he was quite surprised to learn that Amy and I were married. (and Amy wasn’t real happy with me when I told him) Hmmmmm??? If you just got married, wouldn’t you tell your friends about it? I know I was telling everyone I knew (and many people I didn’t know) As it turns out, Eric was friends with TJ as well so Amy had good reason for not telling him. She told me she hadn’t told him because we had gotten married so quickly and she didn’t want people to judge us for rushing into the marriage. I have since found out that none (except the girl we were supposed to get the caddy from) of Amy’s friends had any idea I even existed. I am sure some of her “good friends” still don’t know she was ever married to me. I have seen pics of her in Vegas with her friends that were taken when we were married and she went out to visit. She wasn’t even wearing her wedding rings. If only I had known.

Skipping forward a bit….. let’s say Christmas 2006

Maddy went to spend Christmas with her Grammy Pam, and daddy Jim in New York. By this time I had talked to Jim a few times on the phone and was starting to think he wasn’t quite the monster Amy had made him out to be. He was always polite on the phone and Madellyn was always excited to talk to him.  We celebrated at our house after Maddy came back. My family came down for the occasion, and it was really great.  I thought Amy and I were doing well, and she was happy, but shortly after Christmas things started to go down hill.

Amy had been pushing me to have a child with her, she told me that she had a kind of cervical cancer, and that she was not sure if she would be able to have a baby for much longer.  She told me that was not an uncommon affliction in her family and that in fact both of her sisters and her mother had undergone hysterectomies as a result of this problem. This is of course not true either; they are all three very much “in tact”.  I didn’t know this of course and was very sympathetic to Amy’s situation. However I told her that we were just not ready to have another child in our life, we could barley afford to make the bills as it was.  She really would not take no for an answer. She would keep me up all night crying and moaning, pleading with me to have a baby. (I am so happy I never gave in) Then she started with jewelry…. I could never afford to by Amy a diamond engagement ring, so I made her engagement ring. (one of my undergraduate degrees is in Metal Smithing) I also made her earrings to match. (for some reason she still wears the earrings, she probably tells people she made them)  She often told me how she loved these things and all, but she was jealous of the girls at work that had diamond rings. She also started to complain about the fact that we didn’t have a bigger wedding, and how she felt like she got gypped by our small ceremony. I felt bad, but we were so strapped for cash there wasn’t much I could do. We were paying a hundred and twenty bucks a week for Maddy’s school, and I had just paid off Amy’s car at about three thousand dollars, (and would later have to drop another grand into it to get it fixed) so money was tight. However, I wanted to do something special for her, something she could be proud of, so I started planning a one year anniversary party.  The whole goal of the anniversary party was to show her how much I loved her. We got the fire hall and I hand made invitations and hired a caterer. Amy spent the whole night with her fire fighter buddies, we barely spoke the whole night. In retrospect, that night was really the beginning of the end. Things really started going down hill from there. 

*just a side note, I found out later (from amy’s cell phone records) that around this time she had begun to talking again with her old boyfriend “creepy pat” she was talking to him and texting him 5 to 10 times a day. Always at times I wasn’t around, and I never was told that she ever talked to him. When I found the records and confronted her about it, she claimed they were friends and nothing more, however, when I called him he refused to speak to me, and repeatedly hung up on me. Hmmm…. Not so friendly. *

Amy had started to work at a prison in Hanover county VA. This was about an hour and a half away from home. I wasn’t really happy about the distance, but she was quite excited about the job and she was sure it was going to bring in more money for us.  She worked 10 hour shifts and often went straight from work to one of her many other activities. (roller derby, fire fighting, town council…..) she kept herself very busy.

 As I said before, from April on, things started to disintegrate quickly. Amy started drinking more and more, and became more and more emotionally unstable she would take to crying for days (yes literally days) at a time. She would lay up all night sobbing and crying. I tried repeatedly to talk with her about and tried to comfort her, but it was imposable. She would become violent and on more than one occasion she actually hit me.  She started to become jealous of my time and more controlling. She also started to regularly question me as to weather or not I was cheating on her.  *let me make this very clear I NEVER CHEATED ON MY WIFE!*  On one occasion she got very drunk at a friends house then decided that she wanted to leave with Madellyn, it took four of us to keep her in the house. We had to block the doors and threaten to call the police if she left. She was becoming more and more obviously unstable.  Then she started going out and not coming home at night. She would say she was going out with friends, and I would lay up all night worrying. Or she would tell me she was too tired from work and her roller derby practice to drive home, and that she was going to sleep at a girlfriend’s in Richmond. I saw her less and less, and when I did see her, she was always tired and upset. I was taking care of Maddy pretty much full time, and although I loved her and I loved being around her, it was very difficult.   I finally convinced Amy to go to a marriage councilor with me. It took a lot to convince her and in the end, I had to tell her that if she was not willing to go, I would have to leave.

  We went twice together and the councilor asked us to come back on our own so he could talk to us each individually. When I went to see him he expressed his opinion that amy needed to be on some kind of medication to deal with her mood swings.  He also told me that I should be very wary of her staying out so often, he said that in his experience, that usually meant there was someone else. …….. there was!

On September 18^th 2007 I was helping a friend of mine work on his house. I came home to pick up some tools we needed and got quite a surprise.  Amy had told me she was not going to be home because she had roller derby practice after work. Well she was home, and she was not alone. I caught her and her roller derby coach having sex in our bed.   It destroyed me! Luckily my friend David was with me and was able to calm me down and keep me sane.

 Without getting into a lot of the details, let me just say, that was a long night. 

 Allow me to clear this up right now. I do not in any way blame him (her roller derby coach) for what happened. Amy had told Chris (the other man) that I had abandoned her and that I wanted nothing to do with her or Maddy. She said that we had not really been together since June, honestly I do not know the extent of what she told him, but I know he really felt like he was saving this poor girl from some awful guy.  This had been going on long enough for Amy to also tell him that she was pregnant with his child. (don’t worry she wasn’t, it was just one of her lies to try to trap her next victim, she had a convenient miscarriage a few days after all this went down)   As I have said, the blame for this should fall squarely on Amy’s shoulders, like Jim, and TJ before me I was just the next in line to be cheated on and screwed over by Amy Rose. 

 As I said, when I caught Amy and Chis together, I was devastated.  I all but knew she was cheating on me, but to come home and find her with another man in our bed; I don’t think I will ever get over that.  I ended up talking with Chris for a while that night, and he realized that she had been lying to him about a great many things as well. However, he decided to give her another chance. You have to understand at this point he had left his girlfriend for Amy and he thought she was carrying his child.  Staying with her was a huge mistake on his part. (but I will get to that later)

 The day after all of this happened I dropped Maddy off at school for the last time. We both cried the whole way there as I tried to explain to her that I was not going to get to be her daddy anymore. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. (it truly broke my heart) I took the day of school, Amy came home and we had a long talk. I told her our marriage was obviously over, and gave her to the end of the month to get her stuff out of the house. She agreed at that time to pay me back about 3 thousand dollars to cover what I had spent paying off and fixing her car. (of course I have never seen the first dime of that money) She apologized for what had happened with her and Chris and told me she loved him, and was planning on marrying him.  She moved in with Chris in Roanoke VA, and regularly started coming back to my house to clean out her stuff.  A few days after she moved out I got a call from Jim. He was looking for his daughter, apparently she had not told him she had taken Maddy and moved away. As I told him all that had happened, he began for the first time to tell me his tale, and how Amy had destroyed his life. Then he told me something else.  He told me that I was not Amy’s second husband. As I have said before, it was my understanding that Amy had only ever been married to Jim, and she hadn’t even dated anyone between him and me. Again, I was devastated. It’s one thing to find out your wife doesn’t love you anymore and to catch her with another man, but to find out that your marriage has been a lie from the beginning, that is a whole other level of betrayal.  Jim also told me that he and Amy had never been officially divorced. I looked up her marriage to TJ on line and found that she was still married to him for the first 9 months of our marriage. The divorce had not even been filed for July of 06. (and he was the one that filed, if he hadn’t, I am sure she would still be married to him too)

 All this was too much for me to handle…. I kind of lost it. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, I dropped almost 20 lbs. and miss days at work. I was a mess.  I still have not recovered from it.

 As I said, Amy was regularly coming back to the house to pick up her stuff, and I started noticing things missing.  Little stuff at first…. My hat, some tools, my camera, a jacket, my comic book collection,  I found my good cufflinks in a box that she had packed, I took them back and put them away in my jewelry box on my dresser. I decided to just look through some of my other stuff to see if I was missing anything else, and sure enough, my great Aunt Maye’s wedding ring (it had been passed down through the family to me) was missing from it’s box in the bottom of my jewelry box.  I confronted Amy about it, she deigned having anything to do with any of my missing items.  I didn’t know what to do, I got up the guts to call Chris. I asked him about some of the stuff I was missing.  He told me that he would keep an eye out for what I described and he did find many things. He said he wanted Amy to clean up her act and make things right. He even said he was going to see that she paid back the $ she owed me.  To his credit, he did find some of my stuff and even made her bring some of it back. Thanks to him, I got back my hat, camera, and jacket.

 During this time I went to my lawyer to start the divorce process and when I explained everything to him, he told me that because she was married to 2 other men when she married me, that I needed to turn that over to the police. I knew it was wrong to do, but I had no idea it was a crime. Turns out bigamy is a class 4 felony. (who knew?)  On September 30^th, 2007  As of right now, she is still awaiting trial for this charge. Amy was arrested at our house for the crime of bigamy. Unfortunately her mother bailed her out.

 The good thing that came out of this is that Maddy went to live with her father in NY, and as I have stated before, she is doing wonderfully there.

 Now, Amy was out on bail and still had to come to the house to pick up stuff. Even after all that had happened I still had feelings for her, and she began to tell me how much she missed me and how she had made a huge mistake and wanted me back.  I still loved her, and wanted so bad to believe her, I really considered letting her back into my life.  (I know, I am an idiot)

   She started calling me again, and telling me how much she missed me, she said she had made a huge mistake with Chris and she wanted me back. she told me that he was beating her and drinking all the time, she even said he stole a bunch of money from her.  Even though I knew she was bad news, a liar and a thief, she was still my wife, and I still loved her.  At the time I still thought she was a decent person who had just made some mistakes, I thought that maybe if she was willing to get some help and truly make a change, we could still have a chance of being happy. Please remember that at this time I knew about the other men, but I didn’t know about all the lies regarding her family and her background. It was about this time that I started talking to her sister Sandy. Sandy really opened my eyes as to all that had been going on with Amy since she was very young.  I started to find out more and more about her. I found out that much of what she owned had been stolen. She had a bunch of guns which she told me her father left to her when he passed away. Actually she stole them from her mother after her father passed away. She also stole his coin collection, (it was a large collection)  and claimed that she bought all the coins when she was living in Fredericksburg VA.  She had been stealing drugs and medical supplies from Pamunkey Regional Jail, where she was working. I still loved her but was realizing more and more everyday just how truly depraved she was. 

On October 10^th 2007 Amy came to the house to pick up more stuff. She told me again how Chris was beating her and being abusive. She went back that night, to Roanoke, and told the police that Chris had been beating her. She had him arrested and put in jail. At the time I didn’t know what to believe, I knew she was a liar, but I wanted to believe her.   At this point she was pushing me hard to take her back, she said she was going to move to Richmond, and even asked if I would be willing to move to Richmond with her.   I started to get more and more afraid to even be in the house with her. I was afraid she would say the same thing about me that she had said about Chris.

 The Following is an excerpt from my diary on October 11^th 2007

“  Amy has had Chris arrested. Yep, that’s right, ARRESTED. She has claimed up and down that he was abusive that he stole money from her and everything else. I don’t know what to believe. At the same time she is trying desperately to get back into my life. She is still all I want. She says she loves me she says she wants to be with me. But I don’t know. I still feel like I am being lied to. I do want her. I want to choose to be with her, but I know I can’t believe a word she says….. How do you build a relationship on that? Is that possible? The more I think about it the more I feel that no, it’s just not possible. But I love her. I just need to end it, but I can’t I can’t seem to get her out of my blood. She is intoxicating. I miss her.”

October and November were very difficult months for me. Amy was already seeing someone

else in Richmond, but was still calling, and e-mailing me. It was very difficult to separate myself from her and cut off all communication between us, even now when I run into her, it’s very hard for me to deal with. I ran into her and her new boyfriend, (the forth one since she left me) at Elvis Fest in NC.  I was really surprised because she is out on bail, and not allowed to leave the state.  It’s funny, I am sure her new man has been told all kinds of horrible things about me, and I am sure she is lying to him about all kinds of everything else, but I can’t tell him. There’s no way he would ever believe me, to be honest, if someone had warned me at the beginning I would not have believed them either.

 Since this has all gone down, Amy has been arrested and charged with two separate felonies. One Charge for the bigamy, and a Grand larceny Charge for stealing my Great Aunt Maye’s ring.  The cases will be going to court sometime in March, and I am nervous as too what the outcomes will be. I have really tried not to become bitter over all of this. Some days, I am angry, some days I am depressed, not a day passes that she is not on my mind in some form or another. It’s funny, I don’t miss her, I miss the person she pretended to be. I fell in love with a wonderful woman that didn’t exist. Lies don’t last forever, eventually the truth comes out and all lies are exposed. I am by no means a Bible Scholar, but I do like what it says in John 8:32… “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."  Maybe that is why I have written all this down, maybe by getting it all out there, the truth will help set me free.